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For over 2 years I have been blogging and interacting with people about the relationship between people with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and their loved ones (Non-BP’s). I blog at the site: www.anythingtostopthepain.com.

You might be a person who fits into the “Non-BP” category. To help determine* if you are a “Non-BP”, ask yourself the following questions (this is an edited excerpt from my book, "When Hope is Not Enough" (WHINE):

If you answered “yes” to a large portion of the questions above, it is possible that you are in a relationship with someone who has BPD (and very probably that you are in a relationship with someone with BPD traits). Because you have been so isolated and secretive about your relationship, you also might feel that you are the only person in the world who feels this way and experiences this behavior. You are not.

There are millions of people in the United States alone who suffer from BPD or a similar disorder. Conservative estimates say that from one to five percent of the entire U.S. population experience this disorder. That means that you have approximately a one in twenty chance of being involved with someone with BPD. If you are involved in a relationship with a person with BPD, whether you are a spouse, partner, parent, child or friend, you are considered a “Non-BP” or “Non.”

If you find yourself in the “Non-BP” category, there is help for you. I offer services on my services page that can help you in your relationship with this difficult person. Currently, I offer several free services and one paid service. The details of these services are located on the services page.

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* this is not a definitive diagnostic tool. Since I am not a mental health professional, I am not qualified to make a formal diagnosis – only a trained mental health professional can provide a diagnosis. However, if you answered “yes” to many of the above questions, you may feel as though your loved one has BPD or behaves as if he/she does. This site is about helping YOU, not the person with BPD (diagnosed or undiagnosed).


Resources for partners and parents of people with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD):

Anything to Stop the Pain - BPD and Nons Blog
Anything to Stop the Pain - Google Email Group